Oprah’s acceptance speech for her Cecil B. DeMille award was something. One for the history books. There is not one thing she said that I disagree with.
The sexual abuse allegations that are happening in the media, in the film industry, and in politics are terrible. High expectations were on Oprah, and she delivered, with a capital D.
I did want to take a moment today to say that I have never, ever been mistreated by a man. Although, I admire Oprah and many others like her. I can stand up and loudly declare that NO, not me. I don’t consider myself a lucky one; it just is a fact about my life’s story.
My father was a consummate gentleman. His two siblings are the same. Equally valid, concerning my only brother.
My doctor is a dedicated professional that is scary passionate about my health and welfare, and he has zero bias.
I have worked with many men, in the male-dominated fields of wine and landscaping. In fact, my associations with men in the wine world have been spectacular. I have met so many upright men that are full of class and character.
I have dated, been romanced and had friendships with great men.
I had two beautiful twin boys who died way too soon, but they changed every fibre of my being, just by existing. They still impact every moment of my life.
I married the best man I’ve ever met. He is the person I like the very best out of every single creature I’ve ever encountered. He’s completely for me. We are for each other, and in my eyes he’s perfect. I could go on for days, but I won’t.
I have, however, suffered abuse at the hands of women. I have had things said to me that I would never, ever imagine or consider speaking to someone else. One particular woman traumatized me throughout my life and hurt me so badly that I only recovered last year. Thank goodness I did, the work was tremendously hard, but I SO deserve to be free. As does every human.
I applaud every single person, including Oprah for taking a stand against abuse, bullying, mistreatment, and injustice.
The reason, I felt like bringing this up today is that it is ok for Oprah to use her speech as a vehicle to drive social and political change. She’s committed to truth. It’s her job, her raison d’être.
I too am passionate about justice and equality. I make no bones about where I stand. I’m not perfect, but I choose every day to be the most freaking awesome person I can be.
I started telling my story on this blog, three years ago, and I feel like I’m barely getting started. I am working to uncover something deep inside of me: my truth, my righteousness and my worth. Which all become more evident every day I’m alive. I enjoy being me.
I, like so many, crave intimacy and authentic communication. I’d prefer connection, no matter how awkward, than someone who just averts their eyes to stay comfortable.
I am not afraid.
To share with you my deep, human need. Not to launch a parade or a campaign. IMO, there was something a little too contrived about the Golden Globes. Choreographed? Maybe. Necessary and Timely? Yes.
As I continue this online journey, I’d love to hear from you. If you’d like to connect, please reach out. If you are more comfortable, just moving along, bless you.
I am here, though, on the other end of this screen.
To you. In freedom & equality. xoxo Kellie